Husband is being very distant because of stress, shouldn't my needs still count?

He won't come to bed with me. It's usually 2am by the time he comes up. He doesn't want to have . I spent 2 hours making a huge dinner, he ate 2 bites and said he was too stressed and got up and left me alone at the table. When I try to snuggle he says "ohh come on!". He has had like 20 jobs in the last year and keeps getting fired, so hes real stressed. Ive tryed to be understanding, and when I complain he says i am selfish and dont get it. well there never is a time when hes not stressed. its either he has no job or hates his job. not sure what to do... i am a very needy person i need , love, cuddling, sweet talk.